I prefer to be provided with detailed instructions for what I need to do to make a clean break.

Follow the instructions to serve the papers.

Your instructer was likely referring to any earnest money a buyer turns over to a realtor.  

awesome, yeah being from the expensive part of the Bay Area, I'm use to seeing the worse areas of Oakand, Ca  and San Francisco turn into  a gold mine, that hidden diamond in the rough i would say. 

If the answer is no then just simply instruct your agent that you want to exercise your inspection contingency and back out of the deal.

you send escrow instructions to your title and escrow company that you are in position to make said loan when they can insure you in first position.  

@Brandon Ingegneri I would just move on and make a note not to do business with them in the future.It sounds like the explicit instructions you gave them were oral, and not something they agreed to in writing, so it sounds like it would end up as a "he said, she said" anyway.But 99 times out of 100, trying to make an example out of someone backfires anyway.

Off market is great, but build inspection/finance contingencies into your offer just in case there’s a hidden lien or unforeseen repairs that would show up.

. - Some properties are situated where the bank has a deadline and the the offers are all reviewed at the same time and weighted accordingly.)3) Know the specific instructions: Every bank is different!

For instance - In the past I buy a house, my HML gives the title company closing instructions, he is listed on the HUD, and wires the money to the title company on closing.Now that I have essentially a guy with cash in the bank does he need to deal with title company?