I stand 6 ft 250 and It will be a bad day when some one calls my dad a druggie.Sorry I am usually here to help but this post hit home Alex Sorry to hear about your father and I hope he can get what he needs to ease his pain and discomfort.

Your discomfort is your gut telling you that you were bamboozled.

I am venturing into buy, FIX, and hold; looking into how to loan money for the short term (up to 6 months) and JV with others, and using self-directed IRA's.These are new areas for me so there is going to be discomfort with this learning curve.

In exchange for this permission, the Tenant agrees as follows:1.To keep no more than 1 domestic dog(s) as described below.2.To pay additional rent in the amount of $ 0 per month; or3.To deposit with the Landlord a "Non-refundable Pet Deposit" in the amount of $ 250 which shall be held as security for the faithful performance of this pet Agreement and shall be used upon the termination or expiration of this Agreement for the purposes of cleaning the Premises.4.To keep the pet from causing any annoyance or discomfort to others and to immediately remedy any complaints concerning the pet.5.To keep the pet from damaging any property belonging to the Landlord or others.6.To immediately pay for any injury, damage, loss, or expense caused by the pet (In this regard, it is expressly understood that at no time shall the Tenant apply any part of the Pet Deposit towards such amounts due, but rather, the Tenant shall make restitution immediately and separately from the Pet Deposit.7.To keep the pet under control at all times.8.To keep the pet restrained, but not tethered, when it is outside of the Premises.9.Not to leave the pet unattended for any unreasonable periods.10.To hold the Landlord harmless from all liability arising from the Tenant's ownership or keeping of the pet, including but not limited to any liability resulting from the Landlord turning said pet over to local pet policing authorities should the pet be found unsupervised.11.To dispose of the pet's droppings properly and quickly.Also, to coordinate the cleanup of the pet’s droppings with the weekly lawn maintenance.12.To insure that the pet will wear the appropriate Local Animal License, a valid Rabies Tag and tag bearing the owners name and phone number.All licenses and tags must be kept current.13.Tenant agrees to control flea infestation and will exterminate if necessary, and upon demand, in any and all areas affected with full cost to be paid by tenant. 14.Tenant agrees that Landlord will not be responsible for the injury, harm, or death of the animal, and agrees to hold Landlord harmless for any damages suffered as a result of any harm caused on the animal or by the animal upon another person, guest or employee.

It's all about having the right team and getting past the emotional discomfort of not walking through a house before you buy it. 

With that specific loan product, you can get the work completed prior to moving in, and with $40k left on your loan limit you'd probably be able to fix the majority of those issues.I completely get taking on a rehab from the get-go may be a little bit intimidating, but one of my other favorite sayings is "let discomfort be your compass" - the more difficult the challenge is the faster you'll grow.  

With my first property I was very stressed out, but I just pushed forward past that discomfort and now four years later and six properties, I'm pretty comfortable with it.   

Those to whom this principle applies need to be allowed to feel the discomfort of their actions.

I might be willing to live in a living room behind a curtain to make the numbers work but that's about the level of my "discomfort pendulum" at the moment. 

As you pointed out communal living in a multi-family is going to involve some level of discomfort at times.