Am I barking up the wrong tree?

The one next door with the two just bark and yell endlessly.  

So at that point I try to avoid her and make the repairs but she keeps barking in my ear about the cabinets being to outdated and that she can't live with this.

Come on in and bark at anything you see fit.

To try and understand the mentality or course of action banks/lenders will take with regards to troubled pptys/assets is like trying to understand what your dog is saying when it barks.

Hi, so my tenant's girlfriend's dog got out of the apartment and barked and scared a lady outside in the hallway.

However, human nature is "loud bark and no bite."  

The buyer is under some constraints of project requirements, barking about when possession will be, or salvage of home materials or contract closing dates all fall into other areas that make the gears mesh to meet overall requirements, they aren't going to be as flexible as if a homeowner were buying the place......and, that is why you are getting the larger offer, they probably know what you paid, so they are already padding your pockets.

While I understand that lease options are made that terminate the option upon default of the lease, such may not hold water if the tenant barks as an option may not be made with conditions or strings attached.

Nothing personal as to your socio-economic standing, but you're barking up the wrong tree, birds of a feather flock together, sparrows don't nest with eagles, learn. work, grow, advance and in time you may well soar with the eagles.