I did find this deal driving driving for dollars, the realtor of the property was adding his sign in the front yard, I approached to make and offer. we close in 3 weeks.

The program is neither good nor bad, there's just different pros & cons compared to cash paying tenants.Have offered to schedule a call with you numerous times to try and assist you, but you seem to prefer posting & posting & posting - which will take so much longer:(What are the chances you'll actually invest someday, given how long it's taking you to do basic research?

Lots and lots of research.Price points also help, block quality, etc.

Is this normal cost or high?

It's acceptable as an area though the flips I saw weren't great quality.  

The high end is the 20 or so co ops on 5th Avenue or Park Ave (one is on East End Avenue) that require liquid assets of $100 million + to gain board approval.  

It depends on what stake you offer in the property. 

BiggerPockets also has a calculator to analyze deals, and I highly recommend you start this as soon as possible, even if you are not ready to buy.

So much so that my husband agreed to put in an offer even though he hadn't seen it.

It's not an effective strategy but a lot of investors believe throwing in high end appliances in itself secures a buyer.