The loss may potentially be disallowed.Best of luck

Any advice on how to navigate this while keeping the deal intact or potential transfer of partners would be greatly appreciated!

.- Many of these HCOL areas also have strict limitations on AirBnB or short-term rentals... that do not apply to owner-occupants - thus allowing for extreme cashflow potential for house-hackers.

I will be living in the guest house, while renting out the main.Both units are without washer and dryer units, my question is, do I supply them in the main house; or let potential tenants figure that one out?

Owner occupied loans have allowed us to purchase properties in markets with heavy appreciation, and potential for huge rent increases.

EDUCATE YOURSELF - yes, it will take time, but will lead to a selection that better meets your expectations & avoids potentially costly surprises!

It's the conclusion you came to before you wrote the post I know but bringing up the challenges might make you realize that you might have to offer a heck of a good deal to attract a potential partner.

Consider connecting with local REI meetups, hospitality groups, or even online forums like this one to find like-minded investors.You could also pitch your successful track record to potential equity partners.

Maybe the landlord isn't responding because they don't see the applicant as meeting their criteria. 

When I'm looking at potential opportunity, price isn't that big of a factor.