They think there is a finite amount of wealth in the world and if you have more of it than them, then you are greedy.

Did the traders just have a free ride for the last 2-3 years?  

Would love to find a group to grab a cup of coffee or a cold beer and trade real estate stories and ideas with.

Don't get greedy over 5% take the loan.

Don’t get greedy, only charge what they can pay. 

Also, if I was you, I wouldn't get too greedy (i.e. too much equity share) on your first deal if you know these are recurring investor.

coffee shops that call coffee something other than coffee, tight pants, short running shorts, Trader Joes, lots of bikes, attitude glasses (non-prescription), wine and tea stores, mustaches, edgy (slightly pornographic) art, etc.

By structuring the deal that way, there is alignment of interests between the sponsor and the passive investors.The "sponsor" of the deal you're looking at is being greedy so, yes - it does not make sense.

I want to come across as a just a greedy investors, but someone that empathizes and wants to help solve a problem and create a win win situation.Any suggestions will be appreciated.Thanks

On the other hand, you should regard yourself to a higher standard, more than just a greedy landlord.