I've seen concrete poured down sinks and toilets and tub, wires stipped out of the walls, holes in walls from sledge hammers, drugs, feces, **** roaches, rats, and a raccoon or two. 

, STOP, HAMMER TIME!!!!

I find a lot of people just assume that since they inherently trust their friend/family member, a lot of the "what ifs" and worst-case scenarios are not hammered out in fine detail which can lead to confusion and personal interpretation after the deal is closed, which it should have been addressed pre-emptively before the money was lent out.

I’m going to go with this; If you’ve never swung a hammer, no.

As a Quote from @Justin Windham: says, “SDIRA can be a great way to increase flexibility and get higher returns with retirement money" That’s a fancy way of using your IRA to get rich.Maybe your IRA has been sitting there getting hammered by the stock market and you've had enough of that.

The folks that are getting Hammered by these fake lenders in the real world are basically new investors who have never done private money or HML and simply don't know what they don't know.

LOLSorry it blew up on you, but I've posted several experiences where a lender lowered the hammer, just pay it off, or unwind it.

Ok so who is going to swing the hammer? 

They wont be your last either, so find out how to hammer down your verbiage in the listing so that disputes like this do not arise again, and there are clear and definable consequences and rules.

We needed to chase the fast markets , raise millions of dollars, and never ever grab a paint brush or hammer.