Meet-ups via local groups or via zoom calls or private REI clubs/groups.Asking a seasoned agent in each city/county as well as a Banker/Loan officer will also help put a plan together.

Again, I’m not sure if these guys do this to everyone or if their customer service ability as partners is just terrible.

I suggest you enter private money goldmine in search botton at top right of the screen and read the previous posts....here is one that gives good perspective as well as a link to legitimate private lenders.http://www.biggerpockets.com/forums/92/topics/1488...

I have deals needing funding and want to ensure I'm structuring them in a way that's competitive and appealing to private lenders.

Since this is a post about our loan shop, I'll highlight that we are a small loan shop (30 employees), family-owned just trying to get more clients by placing their loans well and treating customers well.

While sophistication of your equity partners (private money lenders) will vary between residential and commercial, the principle of raising private capital is the same.You need to develop your own system which allows a constant stream of PML even when you don't need the funds and/or don't have an active deal under contract.For example; I raise private capital by offering free educational workshops for people with self-directed IRAs.

--------------------------------------I don't think it prevents you as an owner from initiating the action.Personally, I wouldn't have any moratoriums on private transactions.  

Hey, I’m looking to connect and network with private individuals who lend money on real estate deals.

Plenty exist for private lenders (which is what seller financing is) and can track payments and am tables and also do automatic electronic withdrawal (ACH debit) which helps improve the likelihood of getting paid promptly each month.

Not sure if this is the correct place to post this.  I have the opportunity to help a family member be part of a joint venture with them putting the down payment down.  They aren’t able to get a mortgage themselves so...