Did I misunderstand this requirement?

It's this misunderstandings about how this can work to your favor, and how this all fits together!  

I bite my tongue on less important matters that distract from my main goals (saves me tons of time, misunderstandings, and from getting sidetracked).

This is a gross misunderstanding of the issue.What drive those costs higher are two things 1. corporates' "Bottom line" 2.

I am sure you can not say that you have successfully closed 100% of short sale transactions so this scenario must have come up before.By the way,in debates back and forth such as this, nobody can see facial expressions or tones of voice, it is just text, as such, sometimes misunderstandings take place and I wanted to be clear that I am enjoying our converstaion back and forth, I am not attempting to argue with you.

Well, that is for each to decide.However, the huge flaw in the system allowing itself to be gamed is at a heart of the mechanics allowing the housing bubble and the extreme proliferation of mortgages that should have never been written with borrowers who should have never been approved.Now, don't misunderstand me.

You want the lead and you want to negotiate the best deal and you don't want the bird dogger to screw it up by misunderstanding their role.

@Tom Ott , I might have misunderstandings.

I still struggle with the "needing to be liked" and "this was a simple misunderstanding, I'm not a bad person" thing. 

Please don't misunderstand.