Pay attention to 99% of the posts on Bigger Pockets, most folks here have very little money.

There are a million low cost or free options out there.

Right now, I do have the "REALTOR" status but wondering if it make sense to keep paying the $800/yr to keep the status?

No one is going to come to your door stalking you, but feel free to pay a few grand a year to "hide" your identity that will be able to be found in 15 minutes or in a request from the tenant if they request ownership of the LLC or the operating agreement to understand who they are signing a lease with.

The way I'm looking at it, if my spouse and I only do employer matching for the 10 years we would have more than enough in there and still 10 years out from being able to access it.I do plan on doing 401k loans for deals if the numbers check out, and I've considered rolling over some of our 401ks into roth IRAs to access our contributions but we'd have to pay taxes out of pocket (a big hit to cash flow) and we couldn't touch it for 5 years.  

Of course, renting out the room and hiring a cleaner likely will make it too expensive for people to want to book your stay.

Is there any great lawyers out there that can help all of us sue the hell out of them.

I believe if your mother-in-law runs out of money that Medicaid will step in and pay for the nursing care.

That is not uncommon, BUT asking the seller to do that likely means paying a bit more for the property.

Been a listener of Bigger Pockets for while!