That all being said, (1) my close friends that currently invest have told me that using an FHA loan to purchase a multi-family is unreasonable in this market - how true is this?

I have found a few towns that have some regulations but as newbie, I have little insight as to what is reasonable or unreasonable.

Is this unreasonable and I should only have to file for the state I live in?

I think the asking price is unreasonable.

@Jami Morash Your tenant is what is known as unreasonable and I hope you have something in your lease agreement about landlord access.

. $500 a month in crease is a lot for me as an investor, but is also a lot for the tenant and likely unreasonable.

It becomes unreasonable when one person feels like they are doing a majority of the work. 

This request is borderline unreasonable. 

.—(1) The tenant shall not unreasonably withhold consent to the landlord to enter the dwelling unit from time to time in order to inspect the premises; make necessary or agreed repairs, decorations, alterations, or improvements; supply agreed services; or exhibit the dwelling unit to prospective or actual purchasers, mortgagees, tenants, workers, or contractors.(2) The landlord may enter the dwelling unit at any time for the protection or preservation of the premises.

This leads to inflated estimates on their side that are unreasonable and just delays you, the policy holder, from getting your money, getting the work done, and moving on.