I joke with her that she isn't allowed to get married unless I sign off on it... for example if he already owns a home then he can write that same "living rent free" letter as above, then I'll "preapprove" her marriage.

I am not a lawyer and not sure how it works when you live in another state, but assuming that the property is in ID and owned by both of you through marriage, you should be entitled to half of the profit if it were sold.

Warn a friend, it may save a marriage or a life!

Plus, hes kind of extended family by marriage, didnt find that out until after the fact, but I do feel that if I can help in some way make this go smoother for him/them, then I should.

Remember you are about to enter a 30 year relationship with them...that's longer than most marriages.  

Partnerships are like marriages.

He can barely get around due to his condition, I felt kinda sad for him he can't read or write.They have 6 kids together, 9 in total, 3 of which are from his late wife's previous marriage.

You will want to put a gun to your head, or your partner's as the case may be, if you share title and something goes wrong with your relationship.This is a lot like dating and marriage.

Now that I got the enlistment, marriage, babies, and law school out of the way, I am ready to do this!

assets (including real property) owned before marriage do not attach to spouse in most states that i know of.