back in nyc i routinely used propertyshark to find out mortgage origination amounts and sometimes even balances.any way to do same online around here in cali?

I routinely see values off by 50%, and rent "zestimates" wrong by 25%.  

Very uncomfortable since I told her I'm only looking in The Woodlands, she wouldn't listen.  

I am going to try to start getting back to my morning Starbucks routine a few days this week.

It'll be uncomfortable at first- speaking to potential sellers, negotiating, etc- given that it'll be new to you, but it is exactly what you will need to get you on your way.

We also decided that we will routinely clear drains once every 6 months.

I checked out Redfin.com every morning as part of my wake up routine.

One lender is uncomfortable with my bankruptcy. 

I would suggest a local attorney well versed in your state's interpretation of 'bird dogging' (or 'finder's' compensation) and 'wholesaling' (routinely called unlicensed principal 'brokering' by some).

If at any time you feel uncomfortable, contact local attorneys that specialize in real estate to see if you can ask questions.