Management is 3rd party in each area, and they typically provide a couple of different PM recommendations. 

Also, if you tell me about a potential case that you want me to represent you on, that precludes me from representing the opposing party. 

Rarely an issue, save for the abusive scenarios I mentioned.The fun part is education before you make any deals.

The third one I always list on is Facebook marketplace.

The most tricky part is realistic other expenses.

With 2 kids and a third in the near future, we're looking to move again in the next 2-3 years.We have around $15k savings, $45k traditional IRA and $20k in other investments. 

These will help you understand how aggressively you can push for rent increases.For tenants you want to keep, I'd push the rents to an amount that both parties are comfortable with, so they stay in-place and you don't have to spend on turnover and renovations.

My uneducated two cents:There are no rules stating that you can't foreclose on active duty military, just that you have to get a court order to foreclose, under SCRA.An unrecorded quitclaim is still valid but not recording it opens the parties up to challenges and is not advisable.In some states, collecting rent while a property is in foreclosure, may be frowned upon.I'd stop getting advice from the "investors" you've been talking to.

The QI for your 1031 must be an unrelated 3rd party to you in all ways. 

A balanced approach that aligns the interests of both parties is often the most sustainable and attractive to LPsHowever, please note that I don’t have experience working in syndications for ground-up constructions  and am not well versed in the NC Market, so my perspective might be off.