What would be the best option for both parties?

Your question involves legal issues, so you should seek legal advice.

Understand the fees involved and calculate the total cost for an entire year of management so you can compare the different managers.

If you truly want to protect yourself against STR regulations and ensure the value of what you purchase can be transferred (this last part is important) only buy where these three principles apply: (1) the use is allowed, (2) the use requirements are protected by in place permitting and licensing and (3) the permissions are transferable through a sale.

For the most part I think they listen to trusted non experts that feed them incorrect information.  

Using vouchers are a potential way for somebody with a lower income  ( like me or that teacher you mention) to step into homeownership -and it is a trick to get through all that is involved.  1- A mortgage (in my area)  will be higher than the amount of my voucher -so I am applying for a USDA Direct 502 rural loan.

Do you get put on the note as another Party to the Note?

Your post, and its content, appear to all be quite honest, which is, in itself, is a remarkable revelation in today's society and much appreciated.My main problem, being both older and retired, is getting around the technology involved today and I have found several people who appear to be able to get a site up and running for me and get me front page Google rankings.

Brought all parties together and physically helped my friend go through the house to pack up family heirlooms What was the outcome?

Ones located in Greensboro Nc and the other is located in reidsville Nc the fees I see on this soft quote are: origination fee, underwriting/processing fee, 3rd party closing costs, 6 month tax impound, 6 month insurance impound, looks like 11-12k in fees alone.