To begin investing in real estate, learn first, set financial goals, analyze finances, study markets, make friends in the field, get a loan, start with small properties, check all details, plan how to manage them, and choose renters carefully.

I know it depends on the policy, but the house is completely destroyed and cannot be sold, ive lost lots of money already and this is affecting my mental health.

.- I don't care if the investment is less liquid vs. an ETF or REIT and I would aim to hold it for 5+ years at the bare minimum.Some other questions I had and would appreciate any advice:- Is an average minimum of 12-15% irr reasonable for syndicated deals ($10mm - $100mm) with an experienced sponsor?

I bought it sight unseen as I viewed it as a small development project, did my due diligence up front and didn’t really care about the state of the house.There were 5 offers on the property to which I ended up knowing a few of the other bidders.

So be careful out there when you choose these people. 

I would recommend focusing on markets/sub markets that will provide a more consistent return so take your time and be careful in the areas you're investing in.Personally I prefer the middle/southern part of the country because the price points are much lower and the laws are landlord friendly.

Try to get a feel for the stability of the tenant's current situation and recent past.You will probably find a lower standard of care than you might apply to the property.  

@Marc Rice The best Real Estate Agents have trusted contacts who can get inspection items taken care of.

Over the past few years, my wife and I have worked hard to improve our financial health—we’ve raised our credit scores above 800, paid off all debt except for our mortgage and student loans, and saved a fair amount.

ROI factors in rental income, operating expenses, real estate market health, and property appreciation to assess the potential return.