Best bet is to look up self-directed IRA holders.

I really see Columbus Ohio as an extremely safe bet for the next 10-20 years.

I bet this manager is ripping tenants off without owners knowledge. 

and how do I go about dealing with this.If exactly as you say, your lender is either new/inexperienced or used some version of a form found on the internet rather than have a solid, attorney drafted agreement.

Further,  I am paying for his internet.  

You might try wholesaling, but even that is not going to be fast - find a wholesaler, go work for him for free for a couple months, soak all the knowledge you can meanwhile and read all the material you can get from internet, BP, Amazon books on the subject.

And the new rule only applies to legacy STR owners, not new investors.Your best bet is to comply with the law and see if your investment still works.

I really see Columbus Ohio as an extremely safe bet for the next 10-20 years.

who may chase you around the internet with a digital pitchfork.

But I’d ask your CPA if this random on the internet is right.