I self manage this property and they are the best tenants I have ever had - no fuss.Prior tenants of this space over 15 years - I have had to evict 2 tenants through unlawful detainer for non-payment, others asking for this, complaining about that, and it goes on.   

If the tenant doesn't show up again, you can ask for an "execution" (no, it's not capital punishment!)

Tenants hate landlords when they break rules, and are punished for their mistakes.   

If you do not teach, and punish when necessary, they will not understand what is right and wrong.

I understand, I never expected an special privileges but I don't except to be financially punished because the military decides they want to send me to another state to train just to come back here 13 months later 

Most states award treble damages for unlawfully keeping a security deposit if you choose to go that route.

You are right in that they can be punished.

If it had stopped Themistocles, the entire western world might well be utterly ignorant and backward today, perhaps trying to beat their god-king's punishment into water, as the historian Herodotus recorded that Xerxes's slaves once were ordered to flail at the surface of the Hellespont, to punish it for being unruly and not allowing the Persian army to cross it easily.

Did you ever file an unlawful detainer against the tenant?        

Might not be a bad thing though if all you’ve done is issue a 3-day notice and you haven’t yet filed for Unlawful Detainer.