I suspect most mileage can be deducted (to and from South Padre and mileage to and from each property), some meals when discussing the properties, but not 100% on the lodging since our kids will be with us.

We are still in the process of resolving the issues by pulling permits and re-doing the work but its a lengthy process and will still be a couple more weeks until it is resolved.Finally, I get a lawsuit letter from the tenant’s attorney today claiming emotional distress, hardship, food costs, lodging, etc. to the tune of $30,000 even though they moved into a new home within a couple days of leaving my property.

Remember you have TN Sales Tax, local sales tax, and lodging tax that are passed to your renters.

In your case, your PM should do this since they're really the one the complaint has been lodged against.

Lodging came with a shared bathroom and use of the common areas of the house, including full use of the kitchen. 

She will start looking for a new place or concocting things to get out of the lease and right now she has Sparky lodged over at her best friend's but in 3 days she has to do something. 

For example, in most states, a minor cannot void a contract for necessities like food, clothing, and lodging.

I run an independent lodging property looking to discuss traditional and non traditional options. 

Hudson also has a "lodging tax" on STR.  

The wholesaler has said they can't give me my deposit back unless they sell the home to someone else because they have $4,000 of their own earnest money that they will lose on the property of it's not sold.So far they've been unable to sell the property and have lowered the price $10,000.Is there anything I can do to try and get my deposit back or at least lodge a complaint for not disclosing the prior sinkhole before I sent in my deposit?