Regarding interest rates, all of the options you've listed are very reasonable depending on the circumstance. 

That falls in the "extenuating circumstances" category.

I know it's unorthodox to pay for a bpo, but given the circumstances and wanting to be respectful of his time, how much do you think would be fair to offer to compensate them for the bpo?

I'm a deep South gal at heart, specifically HOTLANTA, but circumstances moved me to Central PA and my REI blood, sweat, and tears paid off in a big, personal way.

And I would also say that you will get a lot of great guidance on here.Regarding vacancies, I think that is a personal choice given the circumstances.  

I am hesitant to call this one my first "deal" for two reasons: (1) I haven't closed on it yet and (2) the circumstance of absolutely needing a residence to live in took precedence over taking my time to find a killer deal with concrete criteria. 

However, I feel like this can be a great opportunity given the right circumstances and guidance.

@Trevor DickieYes, the 2-yr gap rule is a problem.If the sale of your current home is not due to some unforeseeable circumstances - like job change, health etc. - then your best option is to pay tax on the condo.

So be clear on the distinction. 

I was in the Air Force for 8 years, and had planned to make it a career, now because of certain circumstances I have been back in the civilian world for the last two years and I am now realizing that I don't want to work for someone else for the rest of my life never finding financial freedom.