May I ask what mistake was made that compromised your 1031?

He seemed firm at the moment and I didn't expect he'd come back compromising at all. 

Seems neither side clearly holds up as best, so a balance of both concepts "seems" the best compromise.

If I could go back in time, I would have compromised and bought only 3 or 4 properties to remain in her comfort level and show her I respect her feelings over our financial decisions.

I'm so compromised with this, that I just sold my car (I had a loan for 19k and got 20.5K for it) I know I can deal without a car right now and I want to lower down my monthly expenses to see where else I can put my money. 

Here´s the breakdown of my cards:AMEX - $19,135 (I have an installment plan, at 7.99% APR, they won't close my account when I pay off the card) (credit line 22K)VISA WellsFargo - $6,865 at 21.99% APR (credit line $7,350)DISCOVER - $3.369 at 11.99% APR (credit line 7k)CHASE Freedom - $5,003 at 22.99% APR (credit line $5,500)I have no more savings.About my income: I pay myself around 3K a month and I get a 20% commission on every transaction when helping my boyfriend representing sellers and buyers.I'm so compromised with this, that I just sold my car (I had a loan for 19k and got 20.5K for it) I know I can deal without a car right now and I want to lower down my monthly expenses to see where else I can put my money.So... is it a good idea to use the IRA money to pay debt?

Here´s the breakdown of my cards:AMEX - $19,135 (I have an installment plan, at 7.99% APR, they won't close my account when I pay off the card) (credit line 22K)VISA WellsFargo - $6,865 at 21.99% APR (credit line $7,350)DISCOVER - $3.369 at 11.99% APR (credit line 7k)CHASE Freedom - $5,003 at 22.99% APR (credit line $5,500)I have no more savings.About my income: I pay myself around 3K a month and I get a 20% commission on every transaction when helping my boyfriend representing sellers and buyers.I'm so compromised with this, that I just sold my car (I had a loan for 19k and got 20.5K for it) I know I can deal without a car right now and I want to lower down my monthly expenses to see where else I can put my money.So... is it a good idea to use the IRA money to pay debt?

Be careful not to compromise on your criteria just because you're local market doesn't fit your objective.

Not stressing or compromising my numbers due to the profit we get from those reserves.

A compromise a friend of mine used a few years ago was he allowed the physical 'stuff' to be stored in the garage for the 1-2 week overlap.