Emotional ties don’t want it sold but beside that there’s much potential 5bd 4.5bth that needs much work (roof, plumbing) It’s definitely a project.Or leave that dream and agree to sell and use the $$$ to enter the game another way.

This is all a big numbers game, do not let emotions get in the way of anything. 

However,  I believe stocks are more volatile and your emotions in a downturn may make this investment in stock  a big negative.  

Run the numbers and review them without emotions.

After all, this was supposed to be an investment property but "dream home emotions" got in the way.Currently owe $440... 

You're better off going with an Estate Attorney rather than being involved in divorce attorney arena given the high level drama and emotions involved. 

Be patient and don't let your emotions cause you to overbid.

It did help me hash it out logically vs the emotional drive that can come once you've invested some interest.

I think the best emotional support for you will come from a change of thinking. 

People play on the emotions of others all the time, asking to cancel is most likely a no, asking due to a reason that makes you feel bad is a maybe.