I am no longer quiet, I no longer follow the rules, I no longer comply.

As long as you perform the check and use the information received in a way that complies with federal and state law, you are free to interpret the results in any way you choose.

I was having lunch with a local syndicator with several deals going and he told me that he doesn't have to comply with securities laws because his deals have fewer than 50 investors.

It sounds like you have been through something similar or understand this better, so could you explain what it is that would happen if the OP didn't comply with the request? 

Make sure you comply with your state laws, you may have to give them 30 or 60 days notice before it goes up. 

If the wholesaler complies with real estate laws then why not purchase a property from that person?

How many dollars will they charge you, just for the privilege of listing their hundreds of enforceable Codes - many of which MAY end up being uneconomical to comply with? 

I read somewhere -  can't recall where - that  tenant can request modifications based on his/her disabilities and the owner should comply as long as those modifications don't create burden to the property owner and affect future tenancies.

The problem arose when they couldn't simply comply with my wish not to have the contents of my garage photographed.  

Could this arrangement comply with 1031 requirements?