It will calm the nerves.

He'll either find another place or know that you are't going to bend over backwards for him and calm down. 

I say it this way because it puts the parents in their place, which is a 3rd party working for the interest of their loved one, keeping them from becoming the steam-roller helicopter parent who thinks they are going to swoop in, throw their weight around, and all will be well, as it has and usually works for them, as-if their kid was still 5 years old - lol.No matter what, the best way to handle this stuff is with calm, courtesy and a solution-based attitude - that will go very far when dealing with anyone/everyone - be sympathetic, but stick to business too.Good luck!!!

If a partner wants to bring in 20% down to a deal you have found: (1) what is the typical percentage split (2) Can you structure it similar to a waterfall model?

If 100% of the capital is returned you will typically see a waterfall structure to where the equity percentage of ownership may de-escalate because of the performance of the property. 

You can still check the math on what your cash-on-cash return is per quarter--it's nice to present to investors and for valuation purposes--but from a waterfall perspective it's not relevant.

Not so much from the how to wholesale beginners who are really just trying to tie up property to flip contracts but I see them taking properties from normal listing channels.But we also have brokers that advertise if I cant sell your home in 60 days I will buy it.. now that has calmed down some now that the market is slowed down and prices have basically neutralized here in Oregon..  

This is a great time of year to check your credit report - everything has settled down from Summer and it's the calm before all the holiday madness  Everyone is entitled to a free one each year. 

The traditional, more commonly known structures are:1. 6-8%pref with 70/30 split thereafter (no GP catchup) and then you can add a waterfall tier structure if you want based off certain IRR hurdles being met. 2.

Again, other might feel differently here.b) Skin in the game: as a conservative investor, I understand that the dirty secret of industries that the waterfall compensation is in the line with me and incentivizes sponsors to take more risk.