I would be interested in some input into realistic terms for partnerships.

But, they will be in challenging parts of town where realistically you do not want to own property and your long-run returns will under-perform.I'd encourage you to find a balance of sub-market growth, nearby employment, strong income, and only then a good rent-to-value ratio. 

True, there is tax court if they go against you, but for the most part that's not a realistic alternative.

My wife and I live in Chicago and vacation in San Diego every year.  We get a condo rental in Oceanside typically, and stay for 2 weeks. I'm considering purchasing a condo or a small SFH in the Oceanside/Carlsbad area...

Research what properties or opportunities you’d realistically pursue if you sell.

That seems reasonable and realistic, especially given the parabolic inflation during this hold time. 

It sounds like you've been through a lot, but the fact that you’re jumping back in with a solid, realistic mindset is huge.

Realistically im probably at least a couple years away.

Realistically I will get permitted in 2020 and be subject to the 2019 energy standards(solar).One door opens and one door closes.

Would encouraging longer stays realistically help reduce this, especially for a medium-sized cabin?