Then I ask if they have a place in mind to move to. (I

IME residential lenders (I'm assuming you're going FHA) in this asset class mostly "hack" at it, very few are actually highly experienced with small multifamily, so if they're saying it can't be done, in a lot of cases that translates to "I can't (or don't know how) to do it". 

I’m just wondering if I could use my ability to not take immediate returns to partner up with individuals and maybe get into some deals that maybe someone looking to take x % right off the bat may not be able to. I

Also, worth reaching out to is @Tiffany Alexy to see if she is familiar with/covers those areas. 

I would not accept that attitude from an attorney and If i were in your shoes I would not work with this attorney on this deal, even though he or she now agrees to.  I

That bothers me so much, because I really like to KNOW exactly what I’m committing to...I agree that all children TRULY need is love, but both my mom and my husband’s mom have already passed away (fairly young both from cancer), so we’re both acutely aware that time is always precious and no one knows what the future brings, so we’re all about love-filled, family adventures and giving our son real-world experiences while we’re all young and healthy, and can truly experience everything this world/life have to offer (instead of assuming we’ll have time later and then it doesn’t happen).

When I say what you agree to I am referencing if for example one of you contributed more money and/ or time to the endeavor do you expect a bigger chunk of the pie.

I have tried to help him out by trying to get a tenant in there early, and again by offering to refund a few days of rent if he agrees to surrender unit a few days early, and he is now behaving like a sore loser because it didn't work out exactly the way he wanted it to.  I

I'm interested in doing no money down deals like owner financing and subject to. I

But if she wanted to I could assist her by purchasing it through a short sale.