But would me and my spouse being on the title together and just me as the only solo member in the LLC be a “common ownership” or would it have to be exact and me have both of us as members of the LLC!

You can go traditional DSCR and qualify off the long-term market rent to get a better rate and terms, or if the market doesnt support enough comps for LTR then you will use a common sense lender with the ability to underwrite off the STR income/market STR 1007 report.

Common expenses include:- Attorney Fees: Legal assistance for reviewing contracts and ensuring compliance can vary based on the complexity of your deal.- Title Insurance: Protects against potential disputes over property ownership.- Appraisal Fees: Necessary to determine the property’s market value.- Closing Costs: This can include various fees related to finalizing the loan, such as recording fees and settlement costs.Inspection Fees: If required, this ensures the property is in good condition before purchase.It’s a good idea to discuss these potential costs with your lender upfront to get a clearer picture of what to expect.

When it comes to advertising RE for sale what agent is going to run an add hey this home is a 3 and 2 and really a poor investment ???

This is quite common and we have many duplexes we do this way and haven't had any hassle and in actuality it is much easier for everyone. 

I've built my network through different industries but real estate is a common theme in our investment strategies.

If you are able to purchase as a "tenant in common" then that would work for a 1031. 

If their friends need something a place they will let them know first and then advertise. 

What I see most common is borrowers calling thousands of lenders to see who will go the skinniest, only to end up not closing on the deal and paying the price. 

Common sense.