You are fed unrealistic expectations, and told if you don’t succeed it’s your fault, because you’re being provided all the tools you need for success.  

I asked him to give me an example of a current flip, and to me, it seemed unrealistic.

Which isn't too unrealistic because they don't have any debt (eXp is cloud based and doesn't have buildings/offices)

For example, I've been told that the 1% rule is unrealistic these days and was only relevant in 2016 and earlier.

I'm starting to wonder if I am being unrealistic in this market or not analyzing the properties properly.

I will Also do take into account the fact the refund window is impossibly short at 3 days for anyone not 75 or older, how you can decide if you are satisfied with a lender inside of 3 days for finding a deal, and doing the appraisal etc is beyond meYes, they are a scam as I tried using them and besides getting locked out of my account constantly, which seems to be from their side of things from how they made it sound, they have rather unrealistic requirement's (Comps that none of the local realtors or other lenders use for one thing i.e too narrow),or the fact they expect total rehabs to be done inside of a month or 2 and then the property should sell instantly after that, they want all of that done in the space of 5 months, even deciding a property is something else entirely, deciding that other homes are businesses (Like a bike shop) even though they are clearly residential SFR or apartments.

I really want to get started on investing in real estate, but am I being completely unrealistic thinking this can happen?

@Nicholas Pisano real estate investing is a long-term game, not overnight.Have seen many newbies jump in a buy several properties, then when things don't go according to their unrealistic plans, freak out and sell at a loss.A past client is doing that right now - they bought 5 properties from a high-pressure agent, hired us, micro-managed us to try to meet their unrealistic expectations, terminated us and hire another PMC to "save" their portfolio and went that didn't work out, are now selling 3 at a loss. 

Very few mortgages last 30 years before they are paid off or refinanced. 5-7 years is the average life of a mortgage right now, and 10 years isnt unrealistic.

Wholesalers are often inexperienced, uneducated in real estate principles, law and finance, and totally unrealistic in their expectations.