AshleyNormal, however you have wide latitude in the actual agreement you agree to sign, how long, how much commission, that’s not to see individual agents have to agree to your terms, but if you feel uncomfortable with the terms you are free to negotiate or shop around, however an agent cannot legally show you a house without an signed agreement of some sort. 

The maximum special allowance of $25,000 ($12,500 for married individuals filing separate returns and living apart at all times during the year) is reduced by 50% of the amount of your modified adjusted gross income that’s more than $100,000 ($50,000 if you’re married filing separately).

I wouldn't be buying in CA.Growing up in the SoCal area, yes the appreciation has been great the past 20 years; but they way the state is headed, people continue to leave.Red tape in California has caused business to evacuate, high net worth individuals are also beginning to exit the state.Food for thought.

As others have mentioned, the percentage of savings you get back really depends on your individual tax situation, including your tax bracket, state, and other factors.

With my experience with very wealthy individuals who have complete freedom of time, one common denominator is: Keep it simple and a little boring. 

Why should be obvious, and it is for all who aren't chugging the kool-aid. 

Each investing strategy is totally dependent on the personal goals of the individual investor.  

With your own capital and access to other individuals you know well that have capital you could start that way..

Since you all are emotionally involved I'd get a full picture from the numbers perspective to aid you all in making a decision one way or the other. 

These 2 individuals appear to be a mother/son.