I think i'm letting my 'i'm new to REI' mindset hold back my assertiveness on this.

Maybe he has never decided to assert a claim to EM so he's nervous, we get that. 

When the time comes, dispose of the stuff, either through a local trash pickup or a dump run with your utility trailer.The main thing is to assert your possession of the house as quickly as possible and come through for the next of kin.

Honest assertive direct respectful...and sleep like a baby

My tax man (CPA) did not assert that I need to include the triplex inside the S Corp... but, when I asked, he said I COULD put it in there if I wanted to.

A long-time resident at where I'm now living told me when a previous owner (that went bankrupt) started accepting HUD tenants, "that's when the drugs came in" (I wasn't living here then to be able to confirm this assertion, but I have no reason to doubt it).The same reaction happens in business ("street fighting" and "lifeboat ethics").

Short of wearing a fake ring and attending assertiveness training, I am not sure how to handle these kinds of situations. 

So does that mean the defaulting taxpayer (or their next of kin) can come along later and try to assert their "rights".

First, we disagree with the appraiser’s assertion this is a shared driveway.

Specifically, it's a PT to provide services (whatever that means) to one's own IRA.But I'd assert that it is not a PT to provide the IRA a benefit - it is only a PT when the IRA provides you or another DP a benefit.