I'd check local STR FB groups and see if you have a local Real Estate Club.You can offer your services there, maybe for free in exchange for the experience.

They do not offer every bank or lender out there or the lenders would never get a lead.When I say FDIC what I mean is "Fully Delegated" and not just Full Eagle where FDIC Mortgage banks have better rates (which they do) because  retail it's or wholesale and not selling the loan to meet a branch bucket or Loan officer compensation plan.

Folks say use a local lender.

Self management works if you are local and can separate emotion from business.

Have you investigated any local rental ordinances?

I have a commercial property with four retail spaces and three different businesses.

It would be local for you.  

I’m getting ready to make my next move in 2025 and I’m contemplating on staying here and buying a multi family property as an investment out of state (only an hour away) which would be a lot less capital and have a lot more land lord friendly laws or buy another multifamily as a primary residence locally and hack that property I’m single and live alone.

Research local rental demand, especially from military and university tenants, and consider balancing your portfolio with single-family and multi-family homes.

Quote from @Morgan Leiviska: How I would build this database for you would be to connect with people at local meetups that you find.