Additionally, the landlord laws here are more investor-friendly.

That is not correct as to my understanding of the tax law.

(Everyone complains that they can smell each other's food and smoke and  in each other's apartments ) The building is in Northern Jersey where I believe the building is responsible to provide ventilation by law. 

Because honestly, at one point, I considered his offer and was afraid of the possibility that if I didn't accept I'd be taken to court and be responsible for putting my children on the street, and I can see those types of scare tactics and resulting emotions being enough to scare someone into complying with a transaction no matter how laden it is with misrepresentation, non disclosure and fraud it could be.Again, I don't know if I misunderstood the laws and regulations or not, I could be wrong.

Check your state's laws about tenant possessions.

My father in-law has not been living in his house (primary residence) for nearly a year.

I have learned a lot about the process from listening to BP podcast and other sources, but I still don't know about Oregon's specific laws surrounding wholesaling. 

Request that she confirm one of these options or propose an alternative.Set Clear Policies on Access: If you haven’t already, share the access policy stated in the lease agreement or according to state law.

My family immigrated from Africa, and I have recently celebrated my 40th birthday.

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