If they try to take advantage of me, I'll go to the mat...and I will win.By the way, if I ever default as a buyer, I would immediately give up my EM...I'm not going to fight for money I don't deserve, even if I think I can get it.

The traffic is miserable though and the density is crazy.She said if I want to borrow against the building I should by a business like a laundry mat - and hire a manager and make a 10% return instead of 20% - or a bed and breakfast, or weekly beach rentals and she will rent them out for me and we could live in one, at least we would be at the beach....

FHA and VA both have lots of fees & costs, but a "regular" investor loan requires 20-25% down & that might strap you for cash when you need it most.

If your resources get strapped, be very selective and only swing at those "homerun pitches."

I know there are many reputable builders that are strapped for cash, but have the experience and know how to do deals, and might want a financial partner, and it could be a win/win if done right.

@Mat Sorensen is an expert on this subject and has an excellent book called The SDIRA Handbook.  

I am getting the one for 100 pounds as it has overhead narrow shoulder straps for total movement.

This would be great, but it would strap me for cash to perform other investments.

Only problem - we're a little strapped for capital.

@Mat Lewczenko Thanks Mat, It seems the learning curve is huge.