This post made me smile. :) I saw a couple of your other posts also about getting started. I was you a couple years ago, and I feel you.
I was my own biggest discriminator, and I sought out women investors for advice and help. Most were either too busy or too expensive for me, but the main point I heard from them all was - take responsibility for yourself and your future, NOW. It's never too late.
What's ironic was that the most sexist comment I received when starting out was from a woman, who told me to stay home and take care of the kids.
Just pull that trigger! As long as your numbers work and you're working toward your goal, that's all that matters. What others think, if you're one if the guys or treated fairly, really doesn't matter as long as they do their job well. Don't let it bother you. If someone calls you Baby Girl, or hits on you, or ignores your input in favor of a man's... Ask sweetly for a hand with the trash. And then fire them and hire someone else if you want. You're the boss.
Why do you want to be one of the guys? One of my goals was to learn how to be in this business, and make my business work for me, as a woman and a mother. Know your constraints and work with them. I don't want to be a man nor work like one, although I do love going into crawlspaces and attics. I started two flip rehabs when I was six months pregnant, one with a partner and one on my own, and completed both before I had my baby. There were a lot of difficult moments, but it was fun using it to my advantage - my contractors didn't need much pressure to stay on the timeline because they were all scared I'd have my baby on their clock.
If someone takes advantage of you, it's because you're new. And maybe because you're in Atlanta, HA. Not because you're a woman. Men are getting taken left and right in this business too. Own your mistakes, learn from it, and keep going.
I think I might have just set the feminist movement back 50 years!