1. Take the extra 3% for a 13% rate instead of 3 points up front and they pay you back any time less than 12 months...well you didn't really make 3 points, did you?
2. Depending on where you live (no idea the usury laws of Canada), but 13% first lien could be considered usurious, so your interest rate needs to be in line with law.
3. Give someone 100% and charge your points to the back end of the loan and sh*t goes awry, they are a hell of lot likelier to shrug their shoulders and say "oh well, i have nothing in this deal anyway, so, see ya lender...thanks for letting me have zero skin in the game from the get go. Sorry it didn't work out and I lost your $100K, but it's all good, I'll send you a nice holiday card at the end of the year."
4. Yeah, there are some good terms that are a good idea to increasing your return. They're called profit participation/JV terms, and if you plan to give 100% of the money to your borrower, they should be paying you a healthy percentage of the profits because at that point you are their partner, not a lender.