Hey Julie, nice flow chart, how'd you make it?
Everyone manages their money differently. When I first started, I actually delayed paying my income taxes for a year to have capital for a down payment. Yes, I had penalties to deal with, but they were small compared to the proceeds I created. In addition, I used methods 1 + 2 that I've written below.
Investing into stocks/401k is completely up to the individual. For example, I don't which many will say is not the right move, but again, I do better in real estate then I do with stocks/401k so it's my decision to use "concentrated efforts" to make the best return possible on my money.
To answer your question, what I would do if I were in your position would be one of two things:
1) use sweat equity to find deals and partners to fund them while you work them. In other words, be the operator, find a financier.
2) find partners to fund your value add investments as a loan (no equity to partners) to grow your portfolio.
This answer can get very, very in-depth so feel free to reach out if you want to discuss, thank you.