Creedog-
Ask a good question in an online forum these days and you'll get back an interesting array of responses. While the tone of some of the posts is a bit harsh, the advice is in my humble opinion right on track.
You're in a tight spot right now, and I wholeheartedly agree with those who suggest you'll have to work your way out of it. I've known people who have worked over 80 hours per week and still developed their real estate businesses on top of that - no one really wants to work that much - but it can be done.
It's hard to do , but you do need to carefully define your goals and the "why" behind them, and then own the attitude that says I'll do whatever it takes to get there. I think most importantly the process involves then defining the next step to take in the process and doing it, and then defining the next step, and so on.
Consider slimmatic's advice - offer to work for nothing for a successful investor - you have to bring something significant to the table to really engage with a mentor. You can get out of the hole you're in, though it won't happen overnight and it won't be easy.