In reply to you 3 (thank you btw, I'm new here, so bear with me)... let's just say it's a hunch. But I'm not sure, I have trust issues from being burnt on things before. Not sure, as of this morning, he supplied the references of other investors he has lent to, but still, that can be manipulated. Anyhow, simple answer for me on this forum is the pros answering the "who" are good lenders but if I understand this format, that's not allowed to solicit or name names.
I have reached out to those I know around, most are very quiet about it. No one likes to spill the beans, just like when trying to find good contractors or subs...no one will share who they are using. So much shade in this biz it's unreal to me personally. We should all be helping one another so that no one gets scammed or taken advantage. I'm used to doing things solo without help, so this isn't new to me either in this regard.
Still, who do you trust? You can research out the ying yang but still in the end, it could burn you. I just don't know.