As promised, 6-10.
6) The More Money Factor – I love money, and I sincerely believe that more is better. However, more money is possible only if you have gratitude for the money you have now. I am not saying to settle or be satisfied or even to slow down. What I am saying is if you can’t appreciate what you have now, “more” isn’t coming. My biggest mistake in real estate is I got involved because I didn’t have any money, I felt poor and my lack mentality prevented the abundance from flowing to me. Today I appreciate the opportunity right now rather than wish for the dreams of tomorrow.
The truth is, money is an enabler, a catalyst to do more. To receive more, I try every day to love myself more, love others more, and love my work more. If you can’t be happy without money, you probably will never be happy with money, if it ever comes at all.
7) The Jim Rohn Factor – If you have never listened to a Jim Rohn audio, I encourage you for they are all worth the money. One of my favorite quotes from Jim is “Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines practiced every day”. One of the things I realized far too late is I thought if I could just be successful in real estate, I could be successful in life. What I found out is the opposite is true, success in life leads to success in real estate. With the help of Jim Rohn, the best way is to practice a few simple disciplines every day. This of course leads to successful weeks, months, and a lifetime.
The truth is, each of us needs goals to accomplish every day, and simpler the better. Each day two of my goals are (1) did I make another person smile, and (2) when I go to bed am I smarter than when I woke up?
8) The Education Factor – How many times have you heard “If you think education is expensive, try ignorance”? Probably every time you’re about to get offered some 5-figure coaching program. Here are three factors to consider when thinking about paying for education that rarely get mentioned.
A) Is the expense commensurate with the value received? It is impossible to know if paying say $10K is too much without knowing what you receive. The important point here is YOU determine value, not the guru. The problem occurs when value is sold by them instead of bought by you.
B) Will it save you time? Education for the most part is free on BP and your local REI club and library. What is never free is your time, especially if research, synthesis, and analysis are not your strengths, and you would rather be doing something else (see above). I don't believe in paying for education, but I do believe in paying for time, both the mentor's past time in systems and experience, and your future time savings by avoiding research.
C) Are you ready to be wealthy? I once paid $10K to a coach long before I was mentally prepared for real estate. Soon after when I realized this fact, I asked for my money back and the guru said no since 3 days had already passed. Even though I lost $10K I am not bitter because I am convinced had I followed through on this program I would have lost even more money. I have no idea if the value of the coaching program was there, the point was I was NOT there. I wish I had taken a hard look at myself but I didn’t and lost. Before you spend even $1 on anything make sure you are ready.
The truth is, real estate is not rocket science, and you can learn anything you desire. How, when, where, and with whom are the real issues.
9) The Joneses Factor – Is it just me, or does everybody else always compare themselves to others, silently practicing the idiom of “Keeping up with the Joneses”. Comparing yourself to others creates two damaging assumptions, that those who have done more “deals” than you are better, and those with less “deals” are worse. Trust me, neither of these are true simply because success lies within you, not outside among the crowds. Further, nobody benefits by believing others are above or below us. We are all students and teachers, and what anybody else has or not has nothing to do with what we have or not.
The truth is, we give up all our power when we idolize others. Matthew McConaughey was right when he said my hero is me in 10 years. Learn from others, but don’t give up to others.
10) The Win-Win Factor – My first exposure to real estate was meeting a guy who invested in pre-foreclosures. He told me this story of how he bought this house from an old lady who lived by herself on a fixed income and could no longer afford her place. So this investor buys her home, flips it and nets $100K because there was equity. My problem then, and even now is I struggle to see the win-win. Perhaps my upbringing, or because I need to read a few more Napolean Hill books, much of real estate always felt a win for the investor, but not a win for the old lady. Since helping our neighbor is embedded in our human DNA, this internal conflict needs to be resolved before you can ever become successful. If you don’t believe everybody wins, you probably won’t win either.
The truth is, it is better to cooperate and create, rather than compete and conquer. Today I invest in defaulted notes. The main reason is because with notes I can start with nothing, forgive what I never had, and end up with a homeowner who is better off financially due to my efforts. Notes are not better than brick and mortar, just easier to see the deal isn’t about me, but about “us”.