I love that you are diving in full force and already thinking about building your strategy the right way. The fact that you and your wife have already cashed out a good profit from selling your last home puts you in an amazing position to make this next move.
But I get itâwhen one person is all-in and the other is hesitant, it can feel like you are running in circles. Real estate is a team sport, and when that team includes your spouse, being on the same page is key. I've been married over 10 years myself.
The good news is, your wife is not against itâshe is just not absorbing the information the way you are. You have spent a full week immersed in books, podcasts, and notes while she tried to get through one podcast. That does not mean she is uninterestedâit just means you two may process things differently.
Instead of trying to get her to binge content the way you have, try shifting the conversation to how real estate can help with her goals. If you bring up rental properties, flipping, and house hacking, and she is not fully bought in, she may be hearing the work before she sees the benefit.
What if you framed it differently? Instead of saying, âWe need to buy rentals, house hack, and flip properties,â try something like, âWhat if we found a way to build wealth, travel more, or retire earlier without relying on our 9-to-5s?â
Then, once you have her attention, keep it simple. You do not have to go straight into debt-to-income ratios and cash-on-cash returns. Maybe show her one story of someone in a similar position who bought their first rental or house hacked successfully. Sometimes one great real-world example can be more impactful than hours of research.
Also, you do not have to rush the strategy phase. You are on step five, and she is still deciding if she wants to take step one. That is okay. Start with conversations about what you both want long-term and how real estate might be a way to get there. Once you align on the goal, then you can talk about team-building, financing, and market strategies.
And honestly, now is a great time to start building your team. Most real estate teams are happy to meet and consult with new investors. You do not need to be ready to buy to start networking. Take some time to meet peopleâconnect with agents, lenders, property managers, and investment advisors. You may find that you enjoy working with an investment real estate advisor for a few months just to get a better feel for your options.
You are in a great position, and if she is open to talking about it, you are already halfway there. Keep it light, keep it fun, and make sure she sees how real estate investing benefits both of you, not just something you are pushing for.
Good luck on the journey, and keep us posted on how it goes!
Disclaimer: I am a licensed real estate broker associate in Florida, but I am not an attorney, CPA, or financial advisor. The information shared is based on my experience and industry knowledge and should not be considered legal, tax, or financial advice. Always consult with a qualified professional before making any real estate investment decisions.