I have a few things to say. First, thank you for all the kind encouragement. I do not plan on giving up, but i'm not going to lie, i feel like I am treading water not knowing which direction to swim in now.
Some of you have brought up interesting points, and I think i need to clarify that my big concern is not coming up with the 20% down, its passing through the debt to income ration barrier. Some of you have suggested that I should shop around to find more investor friendly brokers - i think thats a good idea, but i think ultimately, DTI is going to remain a problem for me.
Some of you have suggested I look in markets where the houses cost less: I am, I am looking in North Carolina right now.
There was a suggestion of using private money - I don't have a problem doing so, as long as the terms are such that both myself and my private money guy (whoever that would be) can make profit.
I started actively looking in this area because i wanted to stop reading books and sitting on the sideline, and actually make positive movements towards ultimately buying...but right now, I feel lost in a sea where i don't know where to go.