@Jill Green
As others have written, it sounds like ROBS is the best fit for you. I have started this way myself, and so far so good! One thing to consider are the rules around partnering. I am not an expert in the area, but it is my understanding that any partnership the ROBS C corp is involved in the C Corp needs to be a majority partner. Therefore, if you are partnering with your friend, it may effect how the partnership is structured. There may be more creative ways to set the company and partnerships up, but I would be sure to clarify with the experts and lawyers when you conduct your due diligence. I personally love the ROBS because it has enabled me to start and fund my own company, which promises to bring me the financial and lifestyle independence I desire.
Another scenario to consider, if you are not necessarily tied to working directly with your friend, and you both have retirement funds that could be invested, is to each set up SDIRAs and loan money to each other to conduct for each of you to conduct your own flips. The catch here is you couldn’t work together on the flips, as it is my understanding and stated above, you need to maintain an arms length from your SDIRA funds. In this scenario you would pay the loan back to your friend with interest like any private money loan. The profit from the interest and points would go into their SDIRA; however, you would be able to keep 100% of the profit from the deal. The opposite would be tru for your friend. Therefore, you make a profit and also grow your retirement funds