@Kevin Christensen. When I met my wife I owned 2 fourplexes. I made some bad decisions not screening tenants. A tenant torched one of the buildings. I mean poured gas on the bed, lit it, and left. This was 6 days before our wedding. My wife (fiancé at the time) and I were living in the building on the floor above the fire. There was extensive damage. We were homeless on wedding day. Got married, went on our honeymoon, came back, took the insurance money and sold it as is for a small loss.
Obviously my wife wasn’t thrilled about real estate investing after this episode. We’re really not on the same page about money. When it comes to managing our finances, I earned her trust and she leaves it to me. We talk about it when needed. For real estate, after being out of it a few years I jumped back in. When she saw that it was working and it was good she warmed up to it. So my advice is make it work, don’t burden her with real estate problems, and win her over. Do both, make her happy, don’t detract from family stuff, and find a way to be successful.