@Anthony Fecarotta Hey Anthony,
I can see that you are really nervous. This mass response can be pretty destabilising especially when so many of our institutions are engaging with it in the way they are. I wanted to try to offer perhaps some things to reflect on that might help a little bit...
It sounds like you have two pretty distinct challenges in this situation;
1. The effect that your anxiety is having on your ability to make a decision that you feel good about.
2. Deciding on how best to proceed financially.
I am a Clinical Psychologist who is now a Realtor and an investor. This COVID-19 situation is triggering a lot of panic related thinking. Once panic or even anxiety begins to churn it becomes difficult to make decisions that feel good and solid like you do ( hopefully ) when you are calm and secure. So I would suggest you try the following first;
Write a sentence describing the situation, just one sentence on the top of a piece of paper.
Then write down all your separate thoughts about the situation until you have written down absolutely everything.
Hopefully when you have done that you will begin to get some objectivity about how your thinking is holding your reason hostage :) That distancing is sometimes all you need to get a bit clearer and calmer.
Then, continuing to get back to your logical side think:
If I wasn't afraid AT ALL what would I do inside a situation that was presenting these uncertainties?
It sounds like you made the decision to go under contract before you marketed your flip correct? So you were confident it would sell or you didn't need it to sell in order to buy the new house? Or you were banking on not having to hold it for a long time and you could manage the holding costs as long as it wasn't for an extended period right?
So. The problem is the holding costs right? Are you willing to take the risk that the holding costs could go on for an extended period?
Well - just like you said you have no crystal ball and you have now way of knowing how long this situation could go on. So what do we do in those types of situations? We frantically search for a crystal ball? We run around asking everyone for their crystal ball and then when someone says something we like we take them down and steal their crystal ball and leg it?!! No. Ahem.
We calm down and carry on ( there's Churchill coming out again) - we take the anxiety out of the picture and we reason it out. What's a good way to reason out a situation for a completely unprecedented scenario? Well the one thing that we can pretty much guarantee is that the only thing that's guaranteed is that this shall pass.
We decide on priorities; What are my priorities in this situation - getting the new house/ moving out of the flip or ensuring I do not lose money?
In the meantime you could plot out a sequenced scenario ;
If I had to hold it for 3 months what would I do? pay for it, get it rented?
If I had to hold it for 6 months what would I do? etc.
I think when people are saying that the real estate market is not affected by the virus they are meaning that downward pressure on prices and rents tend to lag behind the general market economy and so number changes would take some time to show up but you rightly point out that the buying and selling behaviour has been impacted by the social restrictions and this is very new so I agree that there is an impact albeit temporary.
To respond directly to your concerns about extending - I wrote an offer yesterday and we included a hot off the press COVID-19 Addendum to the contract to mitigate the buyer's exposure if delays resulting from the disruptions caused deadlines to be missed - the traditional Purchase Contract in FL at least has a Force Majeure contingency in it but COVID-19 is not considered a Force Majeure event so you may need to consult with your agent/Attorney about how to get an extension. We have had buyers trying to extricate due to anxiety and this has not worked because the Force Majeure is there to protect against processes not being in place to complete the transaction rather than sentiment changing.
I hope at least some of this has helped a little bit. And I sincerely hope you get some peace of mind. Remember that it is not the circumstances that are the problem it's the way we thing about them :)