@Account Closed - Hi James, this has been super helpful and informative. Yes it is very complicated and with the post on here from you and others, it is started to make a little more sense. So the way I look at it is like this, and I appreciate you pointing me in the right direction. I am not going to spend all my time on this "deal" like I have the last 2 weeks. My plan now is I am going to try a little more, mainly to find the other 2 siblings (not spend a ton of time) but find them and see if they are all interested in selling?
I did try to call the reverse mortgage company - but they really wouldn't speak to me, I will try and call again and see if I can get further. I have been going to foreclosure auctions for a few months now, which has been giving me some knowledge, see what other buyers are paying (which I have noticed at auction, at least here in NY most of the auction prices are pretty high, compared to what investors are paying when they buy a deal directly). But I am thinking if this goes to auction the upset price will be too high and like you said it will go back to the bank as an REO. What I have noticed here in NY (and saw some other posts here similar to it) is that once it goes to REO, it goes to agents that already have a relationship with the bank (obviously) but those guys give the deals to buyers they have been working with. For example, I see REO listed, call the day its listed, and every single time I get the exact same response "ohh we are already in contract" So I was hoping to buy this if it was possible before any of that.
The other reason I am very interested in learning more about this is, I have been "driving for dollars" as I read in the Bigger Pockets book and listened to on podcasts, and have been taking note on the distressed/vacant properties, and I have seen already a good number of them have them same situation as I initially mentioned. So your right, this probably won't be my first deal, but I guess I should still work it a little for the learning experience?
Your right I have been hesitant to bring it to any real estate pro I have been seeing at auction or something, because they probably already have experience and will know exactly how to do this, and it took me some convincing even with this 1 heir that I found to even work with me, he told me "I get calls from real estate agents and brokers all the time" and I told him "look I am not an agent or broker, and I wont waste my time, I'll be upfront and work with you" so he is willing to try it out, but I see what your saying need to get all kids on board.
This might be a super stupid question, if I ran title on the property would it show all the heirs, like he is saying there is 3 siblings total, but what if there is really 4?
Kind of exciting, this is my longest post, appreciate all the advice!