@Deisy P.
I recently clawed back money from a contractor through my credit card company, but that probably only works if you paid by credit card. Very similar situation, I gave the guy a deposit in haste and later realized what he wanted to do was bogus. Confronted him about it and he had the audacity to tell me there was a 10% cancellation fee! HAH! Gave him 3 documented tries to rectify the situation and clearly outlined what I wanted. No response. Credit card company opened up a fraud ticket and billed back the deposit. No problems.
Barring that, the amount involved could be enough to take him to small claims court.
Failing either of those, it’s several important lessons learned (Albeit at an expensive price tag).
1) Get multiple bids.
2) don’t always trust your realtors contractor recommendations (had a guy once bid pre-close and then double the same bid post-close, clearly in cahoots with the realtor) and
3) don’t pay small contractors/handymen before any work is done (more comfortable doing this on large/sophisticated outfits). I’ve started paying in 1/3rds and the first payment is made at the END of the first day. If they must have a deposit, I’m on to the next one unless I’m really desperate. If they say “well, I need to buy materials” tell them you’ll buy the materials, so there is no out of pocket expense for them upfront.
As for doing this all on your own as a female, don’t let that alone one stop you. I’ve got two strong daughters who I hope to raise to be fiercely independent. Does that mean they’ll make good landlords or RE investors? Who knows!? That’s a unique mindset that not everyone (male or female or otherwise) is cut out for. Being female and being a good/bad landlord or RE investor are mutually exclusive. I think the real question you need to ask yourself is do I have what it takes to be a landlord/RE investor?
Also... I know in the moment these situations are stressed it’s hard to see through the haze, but 6 years from now when your crushing it with 65 doors, you’ll never even remember this moment.