I agree with @Meghan McCallum on every point. I might add, seriously, don't "cold call" me 90s style - if you are local just hit me up on facebook through a local group or send me a text. If you call and I can't answer, leave a message. I will let you buy me a cup of coffee and a doughnut, or not. We can help each other, so you really don't have anything to worry about as far as that's concerned.
Here's the deal: If a person in business displays professionalism and appears to be ethically, legally, and practically aligned with my clients' interests, I'll be inclined to work with them. If I get a smarmy feeling about someone, I won't be so inclined at all, without exception.
As for working with folks out of state, again - no harm in reaching out. The Internet connects us all in so many ways. Do I want to Skype with every out of state lender? Nope, no time or desire. It's not necessary for an introduction. PM me here and tell me that you're a lender that wants whatever, and that you are following up with an immediate e-mail. Send me an e-mail that describes clearly and concisely what it is that you want and how I benefit. Invite me to reach out after that.
None of this has to be adversarial. With good communication and an understanding of basic business, there's no reason one business person can't reach out to another in a normal, human fashion.