Originally posted by @Account Closed:
@Dan D. could you please elaborate more?
Many people go through this progression.
1. Grow up with their parents.
2. Go to college, live in dorms or apartments. Graduate. (some skip this step and go to step 3).
3. Get Job
4. Move out / find a place to rent / live.
5. Decide to buy a house and live in it.
Instead of doing step 4, I suggest you keep living at home for a year or two, (or in some other very low cost arrangement renting a room for a few hundred bucks) and do number 4A instead:
4A. Buy a place you can rent out to someone else for a few years in a nice neighborhood and keep living at home (or with your buddy).
Look at buying your first property from an investment standpoint, and not necessarily from a "will me and my significant other like living here". If you buy it from an investment standpoint, you might be more likely to buy something that you can create value in versus buying something move in ready for your first home.
Instead, buy something that cashflows a bit and might appreciate a bit over a couple years. Suddenly, buying your permanent house with one rental under your belt becomes plausible because you have a job, some rental income, and you might have thousands of dollars of equity from that first property. If you can keep your own living expenses to a minimum for just those first 2-3 years before you have kids and need to move in with the significant other, you're on a far better plan.
Your options to live below your means decrease as you have a friend / fiance / spouse as well as you add kids into the mix. (a lot more normal for a single guy aged 24-27 to live with his buddy for a couple years or to live at home for a few years, than a 30 year old with a fiance or wife).