Quote from @Jonathan Greene:
I get involved in A LOT of side discussions (when a thread goes off the rails and away from the original post) on BiggerPockets. Whenever it happens, it happens because an investor either doesn't like the delivery of my message or doesn't like that I didn't give them an answer to a very vague question. I ask many questions back to help them, but they see this as an affront because it's not what they asked for.
The greatest coaches in the world will tell you to arrive prepared, do your research, and ask good questions to get the best answers. I can't imagine someone arguing with this (but I'm sure there will be someone). Just because you are new to investing, new to the site, or new to a meetup doesn't mean you shouldn't show up prepared. The more prepared you are, the better responses you will get. The less prepared you are, the more you will get pitched. You become a mark.
Constructive criticism is your friend. No one who has grown a business from small to big will tell you that they got there by surrounding themselves with only people who tell them what they want to hear and deliver it in a warm handbasket. Different deliveries, different opinions, different questions, different mindsets - this is how you learn.
In the real estate investing world (the real one, not the forums), many people who will be the nicest to you will sell you something shortly thereafter. When you only want someone to sell you a dream, everyone will sell you that dream. When someone criticizes your plan but has nothing to sell you, how could they not be acting in your best interests? Why would someone with years of experience hop onto an online forum just to mess with you? What would they have to gain from that? Think bigger.
Blind faith will get you nowhere in real estate investing. Everyone telling you that your plan is excellent will not help you. You want the people who find the cracks because that is how you get better. That is how you learn. Wherever you are in your investing journey, stop taking everything personally that doesn't fit what you want to hear. You will get places much quicker by having constructive dialogues with those who challenge you, not those who appease you.
What do you think?
This is WHAT I THINK.....I have used this site before owning any real estate, personal or investment. I think that the willingness of those who have significant experience in the industry to provide input and feed back to those of us who don't is incredible. I have personally never been offended by feedback I have gotten but I have, 100 times out of 100, always googled my question first. I don't look for someone to give me simple answers to simple questions, usually it is tactical to a specific circumstance. I think this is part of the disconnect here. There are redundant questions asked multiple times a day "I have XXX dollars, What do I do with it?" or "which markets should I invest in". Like use the search bar.....If you don't take the time to find the answer for your self than you deserve whatever blunt, critical feedback you get.
That being said. I do find that some of the "Pros", not singling out Jonathan or anyone else for that matter, do come off as arrogant and condescending in some of their reply's. It truly is off putting for someone new to the industry. I come from working with engineers, so I am used to it but I can absolutely see how others are turned off 100%. If someone does the work to generate a meaningful question, I wish there was more respect given to those folks. Even if their question is bat $#it crazy give them the respect they deserve for researching a question and formulating an idea to the group. Shutter their dreams with dignity. We owe it to each other to hold people accountable but do it with dignity.
Some of the people I really respect on this forum don't give specific feedback to those off the wall questions. They ask open ended questions that spur thoughts for the OP which drive them to the right answer. That is a true mentor / coach.