This is a great thread because of all the incredible responses and encouraging words from experienced and active investors which is a big reason why I visit this site everyday.
I definitely understand your frustration Amanda but its just a part of the business that everyone must go through.
I can tell you that my biggest mistake in direct mail that I finally understand is I failed to set up a monthly budget for it. I have also mailed thousands of batches of postcards and yellow letters but was never consistent with it. The past year I have mailed maybe 5 times and some of the mailings weren't even to the same list of people. This is something you do not want to ever do because its like starting all over again.
Right now for direct mail I am setting up a monthly budget that I will stick too and will be sending out to the same list every 3-4 weeks for the next 7 months. During this time I will make sure to create a database of the calls and will be following up with each and every call I receive. But even if this campaign doesn't work out, I will learn from it tweak it and try again.
I have 50 we buy houses bandit signs that I have no idea what to do with because I decided not to go that route. They'll be collecting dust in my garage until I figure out what to do with them. I do also have 50 blank bandit signs that I will most likely use to market my deals.
"Why am I not successful in this business?" is a question I ask myself every time I get discouraged. I find myself going back to what am I doing to market myself? Who am I marketing to? Are they motivated? How many leads am I receiving a day, week and month? How many sellers am I meeting with? How many offers am I making a day, week and month? Am I following up?
If you have the understanding that its a numbers game and you will have to get through and dig through tons and tons of dirt to get to gold. That it takes consistent and persistent action and understand your "why" of why you want to be successful and know that you're providing a service to people that need help and have problems that need to be solved then you should be just fine =). Just continue to push harder than anyone else and believe in your business than anyone else even if friends and family don't.
Its easy to see that you and your husband are well on your way of achieving your goals in real estate investing just do not give up and keep moving forward.
I have dedicated the past 6 years to learning real estate without a deal closed. I have gotten extremely close and let one slip through my hands but was my own fault because I didn't understand my market enough. You can check my previous posts. Also with the calls I get I am getting more comfortable whether its tire kickers, home owners and agents. I see that I truly enjoy talking real estate and have found out this is what I want to do for the rest of my life. Quitting is not an option for me and can see same goes for you too.